What it’s like to get the Implant!

Ever wondered what it’s like to have the contraceptive injection (Depot Provera) or the contraceptive implant (Nexplanon)? Here at SexEd we’ve decided to share our personal experiences so that you have all the information you need before making your decision!

One of us at SexEd recently had a new implant fitted after having one in for three years (the maximum time for Nexplanon) so we’re going to share our experience from booking our appointment to actually having it fitted!

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So, 3 years ago after entering a long-term relationship I decided that I wanted to get a long-lasting method of contraception. Doing a degree in Sexual Health I am aware that there are a number of long-lasting contraceptives such as Implant, Injection, IUD and IUS. I did extensive research into all the methods (and paid extra attention in my contraceptive module) to make sure I chose the method that was right for me. I can’t remember much about my first experience, therefore I’ll concentrate more on the second time round.

My implant was due out June 2017 however, due to their sometimes being a long wait at sexual health services I rang early May 2017 to ensure I was seen with enough time to keep me covered from unplanned pregnancy. They offered me an appointment 3 weeks after the date I rang which was convenient as there would still be two weeks before its actual expiry date (having the implant changed before it is due to come out ensures that I am protected against unwanted pregnancy because there has not been a period where I haven’t been on a contraceptive).

On the day:

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On the day my appointment was booked for 2:30pm, I arrived at around 2:25pm and sat in the waiting room anxiously awaiting my name being called. I had heard many horror stories throughout my time volunteering and working within sexual health so I was extremely nervous. I took my boyfriend along (partly so I could make him see what women have to go through) so that he could keep my mind preoccupied. I was called in to see the doctor at around 2:50/2:55pm which was not long considering the first time I had to wait over an hour (I’d recommend that you make an appointment if you don’t like waiting around). On entering the room I was greeted by a doctor and a healthcare assistant (HCA). The HCA got the bed and the equipment ready whilst the doctor asked me a number of questions including:

 

 

  • What could he do for me today?
  • How had I found the implant?
  • When was it due out?
  • Have previously been pregnant?
  • How tall are you?
  • What do you weigh?
  • Any history of diabetes in the family?
  • Any history of breast cancer in the family?
  • Any history of blood clots in the family?
  • Have you been suffering with headaches or migraines?

He then went on to explain that I would be covered from unplanned pregnancy because I was having the implant changed before it was due to expire, he said that if I hadn’t then I would have needed to take extra precautions.

He then led me over to the bed where I was asked to lie as close to the wall as possible and put my arm up with my hand under my head. He talked through what he was going to do. Firstly he would inject anesthetic into the area which he explained would be the most painful part of the procedure, once he had injected the anesthetic he would wait a couple of minutes for the anesthetic to work, he would then make a small incision and remove the old implant, once this was done he would insert the new implant into the same hole. ‘One in one out’ as the doctor described it.

Once he had talked me through the procedure he asked me was I OK and told me he would begin. I faced away from the doctor and looked at the wall throughout the procedure (as I did the first time too). He started by inserting the anesthetic, this was the most painful part; it feels like you’re being stung. Once he had done this he waited a couple of minutes, he then went on to prod my arm and ask if I could feel it, which I could so he waited another minute then asked me again. He then began the procedure, he started by making a small incision at the end of where my implant was, he then pulled the old implant out. Once he had done this he used a special machine to insert a new implant. When he had done this he covered the wound in small strips of tape in order to keep the wound closed he then covered the whole thing with a plaster. He then asked me if I was feeling OK and said I could get up when I was ready and make my way over to his desk.

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This image was taken as soon as I came out of the clinic. As you can see he covered it with small strips to keep the wound together and then covered the whole thing with a plaster.

Once we were sat back at his desk he advised me to keep the wound/plaster dry for 2 days, he explained what I mentioned earlier about being protected from pregnancy and went on to ask if I had any further questions. The whole experience took around 20/25 minutes which I wasn’t expecting as a friend told me she was in there 45 minutes! However, I found the whole experience pleasant, the doctor and HCA were nice and happy to ask any questions.

The days after:

Sleeping that night was a challenge as I often sleep with my head rested on my arm near my implant however, I had to find a new position as it was a little tender. The next day I

wondered how on earth I was going to keep my arm dry in the shower but I managed to just catch it with water slightly.

The second day after the procedure I was wary about taking the plaster off incase the wound hadn’t healed yet but the one the doctor put on was coming off so I went to a close friend and gave her the challenge of peeling my plaster off slowly without pulling off the small strips and then replacing it with a new plaster (my boyfriend is far to heavy-handed and inpatient to do it softly) she managed and I could see when the plaster wasn’t on that it was slightly bruised.

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This image was taken the day the plaster fell off and I asked my friend to cover with a new one. Here you can see clearly the strips used to hold the small wound together and the slight bruising.

The day after I gave up with the plasters completely as the one my friend put on had come off within a few hours. The wound looked to be healing nicely and it wasn’t as big as I thought, only a tiny mark. It had started to bruise more by this point but it wasn’t sore, only if I raised my arms higher than my head it hurt a little.

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This is a picture of the wound 4 days after the procedure, as you can see it is bruised but it is not painful.

5 days after the procedure it feels fine, it is still bruised but it isn’t sore and I can lift my arms higher than my head without it hurting. I still have to be careful how I sleep and not to apply to much pressure but it doesn’t cause me any discomfort.

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This picture isn’t great but you can see bruising and the small incision where the implant was removed and refitted.

At this point, I am now 1 month into the new implant, I’m finding it fine. I get migraines occasionally but nothing that a rub of 4head doesn’t sort out.

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This image is the implant at this moment, you can’t even tell that it is there. There is a small pink mark where the incision was made but it isn’t noticeable.

If you would like to ask any questions about our experiences of getting a contraceptive why not email us and send us your queries.

I hope you enjoyed this post and it has put your mind at rest about getting a LARC method.

Sex Ed x

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Gential Warts

Good morning everyone! hope you’re all having a good start to the weekend. It’s bank holiday on Monday!!! I hope non of you are having to work. Considering it’s a three day weekend this week, which means, more time to partaaaaaaay and have all kinds of fun. However, we don’t want any bad reminders from your wild (or not so wild) weekend. And so here is where STI Saturday comes in to save the day! The topic this week is Genital Warts. I know, warts on your private bits doesn’t sound great, does it? fear not, you’re going to find out all about it. Such as, what causes it, symptoms, how they’re diagnosed, the treatment options and how you can prevent getting warts.

Ok so, genital warts is caused by a virus, called the Human Papillomavirus or HPV for short. There are over 100 different types of HPV, but 90% of genital warts are caused by type 6 and 11. It is passed on through skin to skin contact, through vaginal or anal sex and sharing sex toys. So yep, wearing a condoms doesn’t necessarily mean you won’t get genital warts. Soz. It also may take months or even years for warts to develop following a HPV infection, so if you’re in a relationship, it doesn’t necessarily mean either of you has had sex with someone else.

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That’s the good news over. The bad news is that genital warts, although are harmless, can cause a lot of anxiety for the unfortunate ones who have to suffer with this. If you want to know what genital warts look like, then click the link here.  Apart from the obvious signs of having a wart on your genitals, they could also become itchy and irritated. If you have any unidentifiable skin bumps and you don’t know how they got there. Like, they’re definitely not an ingrowing hair or a spot, then pop down to your local sexual health clinic and a nurse should be able to diagnose it and treat it for you. Please note it will mean a nurse will have to take a look down there. But they’ve seen it all before. Guaranteed.

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It is important to get a diagnosis from a professional before you try any treatments, just to make sure you’re using the right stuff. Treatment will be free from your local clinic, you can find one here. The type of treatment depends greatly on the type and location of the warts, however, there are creams and lotions that you apply directly to the wart, or there’s removal by freezing, heating or generally just removing them. More on different treatment methods from the NHS Choices website. Do not have sex with other people if you have warts.

Did you know that although condoms aren’t guaranteed to stop you from getting HPV and genital warts, consistent use of condoms can reduce your risk by 30-60%! so there’s still a reason to use them. To find out how to make condoms feel better, we’ve done a blog post alllll about condoms below this one, and you can also read Cosmo’s article. ALSO DO NOT HAVE SEX WITH SOMEONE WHO HAS WARTS ON THEIR PENIS/VAGINA/BUTTHOLE. Thanks.

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I hope you’ve gained more of an understanding about genital warts and how they’re spread and what causes them in the first place etc. etc. BUT most importantly, how to prevent them! and if you still don’t. Then read this again goddamnit.

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Genital Herpes

Hello, hello! we’re back again. Third week in a row now! how time flies…
So STI Saturday this week will be looking closely at Genital Herpes. Below you’re gonna find out what Herpes is,  how it’s diagnosed, what treatment is available, and the signs and symptoms of this STI.

So, what are we waiting for? Lets begin…

Herpes is caused by the Herpes Simplex Virus (HSV). There are two different types of virus HSV-1 or HSV-2. Both can cause Herpes on the genitals, the face (often called cold sores) and on the hand or finger (called herptic whitlow). Once you’ve caught Herpes, it stays with you for life.

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Herpes is a virus that doesn’t always give you symptoms when first infected, it can lay dormant in your body for months or even years until you start having symptoms of the infection, this can be difficult for people in relationships, but if you explain the nature of herpes then it shouldn’t need to worry your partner too much, and you can carry on having sex (unless you have symptoms!). If it does give you symptoms after first infected, it can take up 7 days after exposure to the virus.

The first time you have an outbreak of Herpes, it is usually always the worst and most painful. Symptoms include: feeling unwell and run-down and achy with flu-like symptoms, small blisters that burst and leave open sores, these are found around the genital, anus, thighs and bum, these sores can often make urinating very painful (but I’ll let you know how to manage this). Women can also get the sores on her cervix and a change in discharge.

Some people have recurring outbreaks of herpes frequently, some people don’t have another outbreak at all. Once you have the Herpes Simplex Virus in your body, it never goes away, it just lies dormant. Stress and having a weakened immune system can trigger an outbreak again. It is usually less painful than the first outbreak as your body has started producing the right antibodies to fight the virus. Some people can determine when they’re about how have another episode,  the symptoms of this usually include; a tingling, burning or itching sensation around the genitals, anus, legs or bum or cervix before any blisters start to appear, then when blisters pop up,  they can burst causing open sores which can be painful and make urinating painful.

You can catch Genital Herpes if someone gives you oral sex when they have a cold sore. You can also pass it on when having sex with someone blisters or sores on your genitals, but also if they have no symptoms at all, and also through sex toys. Condoms do not always protect against the Herpes Virus as exposed skin is always at risk.

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A formal diagnosis is only able to be made when you have open blisters, so the sexual health nurse can take a swab from the fluid. The examination will involve you undressing from the waist down, enough so that the nurse can examine and swab the area, this will be uncomfortable but it needs to be done! and then you’ll have to wait for the results. If they are certain it is Herpes, you may be given antiviral tablet to take which helps stops the virus from multiplying and getting worse. If it is a recurring infection, and symptoms are mild, the healthcare provider may ask you to manage your symptoms at home.

How to manage Genital Herpes at home = Keep the area clean using salt water to help soothe and speed up the healing time of the blisters. You could either make a cup of salt water and apply this to the sores directly, or you can make a shallow bath with salt water, you don’t need to make either too salty. It is very important to drink plenty of water, this is to dilute your urine and make it less painful. You could also pee while you’re sat in the bath or stood in the shower to dilute the urine that way, or you could even pour water over your genitals as you wee on the toilet. Or whatever you feel most comfortable with. Applying Vaseline to the sores can protect the sores as you wee.

Pleeaassee remember, Herpes is basically just a minor skin infection and is no different to getting a cold sore on your mouth. Nearly 70% of people will catch either HSV-1 or HSV-2 at some point in their lives, even without knowing, so do not feel ashamed of embarrassed that you’ve got symptoms.

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Condoms!

So… it’s time to talk about the most popular contraceptive method in the UK.

Condoms!

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You may already know that condoms come in a variety of sizes, colours, shapes, textures and even flavours, but the aim of this blog is to expel any myths you may have heard about condoms and show you how important they are!!

So, let’s start with what they are (for those of you who have been living on another planet.) Condoms are thin, stretchy latex things that go over the penis to protect the penis from infection and prevent unwanted pregnancies. There are also Femedoms for females (more about those in another blog.)

What if I’m allergic to latex? Do not fear! Latex free condoms are also available and can be found here!

What are they used for I hear you ask? Well, they are used to protect the penis from sexually transmitted infections, or prevent the penis passing any infections on to their sexual  partner. The condom only protects the part of the penis it is covering so there is still a chance you could catch genital warts, herpes or public lice. They are also used to protect women from becoming pregnant as the condom stops the semen from entering the vagina.

The condom is the only way of protecting yourself from STI’s and has an efficacy rate of 98% providing you use them correctly. You can see how to put a condom on correctly here.

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Believe it or not; there are a number of myths that surround condoms and we want to help clear them up for you!

  • Using two condoms (also known as double bagging) is not better than using one. Using two condoms can increase the chances of the condom breaking due to friction between the two condoms. If you are worried about getting pregnant, use a back up contraceptive method such as the pill.
  • You do not have to be 18 to buy condoms, you can get them in many places such as chemists and high street shops such as Boots and Superdrug. If you don’t have money spare to buy condoms your local sexual health service will provide them free of charge.
  • Over the years people have used a range of beauty products as lubricant such as vaseline, lipstick, sun cream, body lotion and sun cream. None of these things should be used with a condom as the oil in them can weaken the rubber and cause it to break. If you need extra lubricant a water based one is most suitable, or even saliva if you’re out of lube.
  • Condoms should also be used during oral sex, this can prevent transmission of chlamydia, gonorrhoea and herpes to the throat. These infections can all be passed orally so to ensure you do not catch one, use a condom.giphy5
  • As I mentioned before, condoms come in all shapes and sizes. Therefore if your partner says “I’m to big for condoms” or “they don’t do them in my size” ignore him, he’s lying. You can always find suitable condoms no matter the shape or size of the penis.
  • Condoms do expire! Before you engage in any sexual activity always check the expiration date on the packet. Using out of date condoms can result in the condom tearing due to weakening of the latex.
  • Consistently using condoms provides significant protection from HIV.
  • It is a myth that condoms make sex less enjoyable- in fact it can enhance your sex life. It has been proven that men are likely to last longer when wearing a condom. If you do experience discomfort when wearing a condom there may be an issue with the size and you should try an alternative size. There are tips on how to enjoy sex whilst using a condom here.

So, remember condoms are important for protection against unwanted pregnancies and sexually transmitted infections and they have a high efficacy rate! Please use them.

We would like to thank our good friend Rebecca for her contribution towards this blog.

If you have any questions about condoms or any think we’ve missed any information please email us and let us know!

Thanks for reading!

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Gonorrhoea

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The Clap, The Drip, The Dose… are some common and uncommon slang terms for our next STI Saturday post; Gonorrhoea. This Saturday, you’re going to learn about what this weird sounding infection is, how common it is, what the symptoms are, how it’s treated and what can happen if you just leave the infection to do it’s thaang (spoiler alert: do not just leave it).

Gonorrhoea is caused by the bacterium called (which I may or may not have googled) Neisseria gonorrhoeae or gonococcus. This bacteria is found in the discharge or fluid (or whatever gross name you can think of ) of a penis or vagina. This STI is spread through unprotected anal, oral and vaginal sex, as well as sharing sex toys. More on safer sex with your toys here.

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In 2015, there were 41,193 new cases of Gonorrhoea reported to Public Health England (PHE). Since 2012, the number of new cases has actually increased by 53%. The reason for the increase can be partly to blame of a increase in the number of tests being carried out, not just because more people are having unprotected sex (although this doesn’t help).  This infection was the most commonly diagnosed among the MSM (men who have sex with men) community with 25% of the infections occurring from condom-less anal sex. You need to wrap it up, people!

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1 in 10 infected men, and half of infected women won’t experience any obvious symptoms. How convenient. However, for the people who do get symptoms, for women, there is likely to be a change in discharge (to being thin/watery and green or yellow in colour), pain/burning when having a wee, lower abdominal pain, bleeding between periods, heavier periods and bleeding after sex.

For men, unusual discharge from the penis (being white, yellow or green in colour), pain/burning when having a wee, swelling of the foreskin, pain/tenderness in the testicles. If you experience any changes then head down to your nearest STI clinic for a screen.

Most commonly men have to give a urine sample, or a tiny swab of the fluid taken (usually performed by a nurse). For women, a self vaginal swab is also a method a lot of practices use to collect a sample, although sometimes a nurse will examine you (to look at your symptoms) and take a swab then.

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Listen, I know non of that sounds particularly inviting, but neither is having green stuff coming out of your penis/vagina. The sooner it’s sorted, the better!

We need to move on now to how this thing is treated. According to Brook, treatment involves antibiotics in the form or an injection and a single tablet.  Worryingly, there has been an increase in reports of ‘Super’ Gonorrhoea that is becoming resistant to the usual treatment (azithromycin), meaning ceftriaxone is the next option. However, doctors warn that Gonorrhoea could also eventually become resistant to ceftriaxone.

How can you reduce your risk of getting Gonorrhoea and ‘Super’ Gonorrhoea?… WEAR CONDOMS. It’s that simple.

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If left untreated Gonorrhoea can cause complications so to speak, and actually spread to other parts of your body. And that is something you do not want to happen. The risk of complications with Gonorrhoea also increases the more times you get it. So… Keep that in mind.

In women, it can spread to your reproductive organs and cause PID (Pelvic Inflammatory Disease) which can occur in about 10-20% of cases left untreated. If you’re pregnant with Gonorrhoea, it can cause miscarriage, early labour, and/or your baby being born with conjunctivitis (inflammation in their eye).

If you guys leave Gonorrhoea untreated it can cause infection in your ball sack (testicles) and also prostate gland. Which may reduce fertility in a small number of people.

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Staying safe whilst online dating

Online dating has been around since before I can remember, ‘match.com’ was founded in 1995! So it is not something that we know nothing about. However, since they become apps that you can easily access on your phone their popularity has soared. ‘Match.com’ has 26.6 million people registered- that’s more than the population of Australia.

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What I want to make you aware of is do you really know who you’re talking to? (Probably not) It’s all well and good chatting to a hot guy/girl but do you really know that they are who they say they are?

I’m sure if any of you have watched Catfish (weirdest show ever) you will have seen how meeting someone online can be slightly awkward when you come to meet them and they are not in the slightest who they said they were. Some of those on the show chose to stay in contact and form some sort of strange relationship however, most of the people could not believe the lies and hated the person from the moment they met them!

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The list of risks involved with online dating is endless- from stalking and harassment to fraud and blackmail. These are just a couple of things to be wary of!

We have a couple of tips in order to stay safe online:

  • Choose your username wisely- don’t use one that makes you easily identifiable. Don’t include your surname or any other identifying information. Be careful when using usernames with sexual, provocative or controversial phrases, this can attract the wrong type of attention.
  • If you plan to meet someone you have been chatting to online meet them in a public place where there are plenty of people around. It would also be a good idea if a friend could go to the same place and keep an eye on things. For example if you go to a restaurant , let your friend know and they could go with their boyfriend/girlfriend/friend and eat but also keep an eye on you that you are OK.
  • Never go to their home alone, this is a recipe for disaster! If they are not who they say they are and you end up in their home, this is not safe.
  • Keep your phone on you at all times, if there is an emergency this ensures you can contact someone who can help you.
  • Take advantage of social media- check your date out online, have a look at their Facebook, Instagram, Twitter. This can help you confirm that you are in fact talking to who you think you are. It can help you find out if someone is lying about their identity.
  • If it sounds too good to be true- it probably is. People create all sorts of people online so if some of the things they are saying are very unlikely for example, they own a yacht in the Bahamas- ask questions!

Match.com provide a list of tips to stay safe whilst using their website, which is a good resource to look at if you are thinking of signing up with them. It can be found here.

We hope these staying safe online tips are useful to you! Be careful who you date and make sure you get to know them properly first- not just their name!

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Fantastic News!

Here at SexEd we are extremely happy to hear the recent news of Pre-exposure prophylaxis (PrEP) being made available to those at risk of HIV in Scotland!

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PrEP (not to be confused with PEP) is a drug taken by those who may be at risk of contracting HIV, for example those with a HIV positive partner. It is taken daily to stop HIV from spreading throughout the body. Trials of PrEP have been excellent in showing that PrEP significantly lowers the risk of becoming HIV positive without any major side effects. Currently in the UK PrEP is unavailable on the NHS but can be given by private prescription from selected sexual health clinics. There is also one specialist PrEP clinic in London at 56 Dean Street. However, sometimes those who need it have to pay for it if they can’t access it from there local sexual health service and it can be quite costly starting at £400 a month.

There are approximately 101,200 people living with HIV in the UK so we think it is an extremely sensible decision that Scotland has made, which has made us wonder why England hasn’t yet done the same? PrEP could be the beginning of getting rid of HIV in the UK- yet in 2016 the NHS decided to cut commissioning of PrEP from its budget, this was taken to court by NAT who historically got the ruling overturned. The NHS said they resisted the roll out of PrEP due to the cost, however it costs approximately £360,000 a lifetime to treat a person with HIV. In the long term- funding PrEP has been shown to be more cost-effective than treating someone who has HIV for a lifetime.

Now this has been released in Scotland we’re wondering what’s in stall for the UK in the next year? Let us know what you think email us, tweet us or follow us on instagram!

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Other news published on PrEP:

Take a look at the I want PrEP now! Campaign here

Have a look what The Guardian had to say here

See what the BBC had to say here

20 things you might not know about sex

Sex is one of life’s greatest pleasures, everyone’s doing it, right? You might think there’s not much else to learn about the act, but you’d be surprised! Below is 20 fun (and some not so fun) facts on all things sex related…

  1. A boy ‘pulling out’ as it is most commonly known does not prevent a pregnancy. Pre-ejaculation can often contain semen that is still in the tubes from previous sex, therefore it is important that if you want to prevent a pregnancy to wear a condom!
  2. 25% of penises are slightly bent when erect, so if this happens to you, don’t worry! It’s completely normal!
  3. You burn around 200 calories during 30 minutes of active sex!
  4. 75% of men reach orgasm when having sex, compared to only 29% of women.
  5. Sex toys are banned in the American states of Alabama and Mississippi due to a district attorney ruling “there is no fundamental right for a person to buy a device to produce an oragasm”giphy1.gif
  6. Studies have found that when males are away from their partners, their sperm count decreases.
  7. The average healthy mans semen contains 300million sperm in one teaspoon! That teaspoon equates to 7 calories.
  8. 70% of men refuse sex during their girlfriends period.
  9. On average, men think about sex every 7 seconds.
  10. There are roughly 100million acts of sexual intercourse every day!
  11. Sperm is actually good for the skin! It is proven to have anti-ageing effects and is packed with protein which tightens the skin. Find out more about whether semen is good for your skin here.
  12. After ovulation a females egg can remain fertile for between 24-48 hours and a male’s sperm can live inside a female’s body for up to 48 hours. There have also been cases documented of sperm living for up to 8 days inside a women’s body.
  13. 12% of adults have had sex at work.
  14. The average shelf life of a condom is 2 years. Have some old condoms in the cupboard? Bin them. giphy
  15. One orgasm a day may reduce the risk of prostate cancer in males.
  16. More than 1 million sexually transmitted infections (STIs) are acquired every day worldwide.
  17. One male produces enough sperm in two weeks to impregnate every fertile woman on the planet!
  18. Experiencing pain during sex can be a sign of not enough lubrication, sex that is to rough or even a sign of infection.
  19. Sex can make women’s hair shinier and their skin glow, all because of the extra oestrogen sex causes them to produce.
  20. Smoking is linked to problems with male sexual performance as nicotine leads to narrowing and thickening of the blood vessels leading to the penis. Studies have shown that impotence is more common in smokers than in non-smokers.

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Consent

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Have you ever found yourself in an awkward situation? Felt pressured to do something you didn’t want to?

No one has an obligation to continue with something they are uncomfortable with, including sex/sexual contact. Everyone has the right to say no. 

The law states that the legal age for two people to have sex is 16 for both men and women regardless of any factors such as sexual orientation or race- this is providing that the individual is of age and full mental capacity and is not under the influence of a substance that may hinder their ability to consent such as drugs or alcohol. A person can commit an offence if they intentionally touch another person in a sexual way and the person does not consent. How do you feel about this? Do you think there should be any changes made to this law? It is also important to note that anyone under the age of 13 can not legally consent to sex and anyone having sex with someone under the age of 13 can be charged with sexual offenses such as rape and sexual assault.

There are a number of useful websites that provide information on consent if  you are unsure. One of these is the Family Planning Association (FPA) they provide useful Factsheets on the law on consent in England, Wales, Ireland and Scotland. They also include information about the law on The Sexual Offences Act 2003 provides information on all aspects of the law and all the convictions that can come from not getting consent from a person. Think U Know is a website run by the National Crime Agency in cooperation with Childline and provides information on consent for a younger audience, it also includes a number of videos to put the law into perspective.

There are many signs of consent however, if you’re not sure- ask! Some non-verbal signs of consent include body language and mangiphy7nerisms for example: smiling, nodding and touching. There are also the obvious signs such as verbal agreement and discussion about the sexual contact between the people involved. There are also a number of signs that you should stop, these may include: indication from the person that they do not want to carry on, you are intoxicated, your partner is asleep or passed out, you or your partner is under the age of consent and finally, your partner is not going with the flow. If any of these signs are present you should stop what you are doing and communicate with the person involved to discuss if they would like to carry on.

If any of this blog makes you think about an occurrence where something similar has happened to you or if you wake up the night after a heavy night of drinking and feel as though something might have happened with someone that you didn’t agree too, you should confide in someone you trust. After all, a problem shared is a problem halved. You should then contact the police, the person who did this may be doing it to other people, you should report it as soon as you feel able to do so. The person you may confide in (if you felt comfortable doing so) could also accompany you, this will make you feel much more relaxed.

Remember if you do not want to participate in any form of sexual activity you have the right to say no!

Thank you for reading!

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